Do you ever wonder how so many people can end up with the wrong person or in bad situations?

I know we’ve all heard of the woman who’s husband or boyfriend beats on them and/or cheats on them and they keep going back to him. Or the kid who gets arrested for being with the wrong people, doing the wrong things. There are so many scenarios we have seen or heard about and we sometimes wonder, ‘how?’, or ‘why???’ I’m not gonna lie, I wonder those things a lot. What I do forget though, is that I have been that before. I have been in an abusive relationship and didn’t get out right away. I was that kid that did crazy crap and got in big trouble for it. I’ve been that girl that gave it up easy, and for what? But, maybe that’s why I judge those things that other people are doing…because I can see it from the outside now. To be honest, I’ve always been more self aware than most, but still made dumb decisions. But the thought of someone else making those same mistakes makes me sad. I don’t want people to unknowingly – or knowingly – suffer. Why do that to yourself?

I think the reason we do that sometimes is, we don’t really grasp who we really are. I’m not necessarily talking about our genealogy or race, though those can and should definitely play a role in realizing who we truly are. What I’m talking about is who you were created to be. One of my favorite passages of scripture in the Bible is Psalm 139:13-18, “You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body and knit me together in my mother’s womb. Thank You for making me so wonderfully complex! Your workmanship is marvelous – how well I know it. You watched me as I was being formed in utter seclusion, as I was woven together in the dark of the womb. You saw me before I was born. Everyday of my life was recorded in Your book. Every moment was laid out before a single day had passed. How precious are Your thoughts about me, O God. They cannot be numbered! I can’t even count them; they outnumber the grains of sand! And when I wake up, You are still with me!”

How amazing is that?! Reading that reminds me that I was not just put here to screw up and make mistakes and keep trying to either justify or rectify those my whole life! God didn’t create me so intricately for nothing! Ephesians 2:10 says, “For we are His workmanship [His own master work, a work of art], created in Christ Jesus [reborn from above–spiritually transformed, renewed, ready to be used for good works, which God prepared [for us] beforehand [taking paths which He set], so that we would walk in them [living the good life which He prearranged and made ready for us].”

Wow…

I felt I needed to say these things to not just remind myself, but also everyone else. I get tired of hearing of people making dumb decisions – myself included – and just wanting to shake them and yell to them, “WHY???”, “Don’t you know that you are beautiful and loved and smarter and better than that??! Why can’t you see that??!”

Maybe you’ve never had someone to tell you that or maybe you believed that at one time, but you’ve had someone beat you down so much, either physically or emotionally and with their words, so you started to believe their lies – or even your own lies. Whatever has gone on in your life or how many people and circumstances have been against you, know and get a true grasp of who you are! I declare, right now, you are beautiful! You are special! You are loved! You matter! You will do great things!

Speak words of life over yourself! Why do you think God has given you a brain, heart, mouth, mind? The whole world could be against you, and sometimes it may even feel like that, but we have been given everything we need, to create our own lives and destiny. Yes, good people in our lives are great and are a blessing, but when and if there is no one, you have you – and of course, God. So, go and be that gorgeous, brilliant, talented, and fabulous being that you are!

Love,

Jen

Live, laugh, love, allow yourself to be loved, go on an adventure, be blessed!